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My Boss Doesn't Care | Jesan Sorrells, UVC Correspondent

My Boss Doesn’t Care

“My boss doesn’t care about fixing disagreements between employees around here.”

“My boss is the cause of all the problems around here.”

“My boss has never shown an interest in doing any of the things that you’re talking about.”

“My boss is never going to come to any of these workshops.”

“This is all great information, and it would be better if my boss were here to hear it.”

“My boss will never let me do any of the things that you are talking about here.”

Yes.

Your boss has never shown an interest in resolving disagreements.

Your boss has never shown an interest in attending a training, or development opportunity.

Your boss is a person in authority and sets the tone in the workplace of “my way or the highway.”

Your boss is not a progressive thinker or doer in the workplace.

Your boss is the one where all the problems at work start.

And if your boss would just change, everything would be better at work.

Right?

Well….

You could try to strategically disrupt your boss, but many of you are more concerned about your mortgage, your kids’ education, your status at work, the importance of the work that you think you are doing (or whatever other reasons you come up with) to not engage in strategic disruption.

You could try to disrupt your boss, but you’re afraid that you will be reprimanded, not promoted or even fired. Or even worse, if the disruption works, you’re afraid that the responsibility and accountability for what will happen next will fall on you – and you already have enough tasks to accomplish at work.

You could try to disrupt your boss, but you are worried and anxious that the other employees looking at you, won’t back you up as you speak and act with candor, clarity, and courage. So, you’ll be out there by yourself, facing an angry boss, shifted office politics, and new disagreements that you didn’t think could possibly happen.

Right?

The empathy that exists around acknowledging the presence of all of these reasons for NOT acting, and for making the statements that you make (listed above), does not reduce the impact of three facts:

Only you can take responsibility and accountability. Yes, it might not work out when you confront the other adult, known as your boss, about their lack of interest in changing the conflict culture of the workplace you’re in, but it just might.

Only you can implement ideas and strategies to reduce the impact of conflicts in your workplace, in spite of the politics of your co-workers, not because of the politics of your co-workers.

Only you can start the process of addressing, honoring, and respecting adults as adults. Rather than dealing with them in the way that the boss does who you complain about—as if they are children.

“My boss doesn’t care” is the beginning of, not complaint, but possibility.

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Jesan Sorrells

Jesan Sorrells is the Principal Conflict Engagement Consultant with Human Services Consulting and Training (HSCT) based in Endicott, NY. HSCT focuses on helping startup founders, executives and others attain peace in their organizations, their communities and their lives. Jesan currently serves on the Cornell Cooperate Extension of Broome County Board of Directors, and as the Membership Chair on the board of the Association of Conflict Resolution Center in NYC. He is also involved extensively in the startup ecosystem in the Southern Tier through the Entrepreneurs' Alliance and other organizations.

3 Comments
  • Posted at 8:55 am, November 22, 2016

    Henry David Thoreau is often credited with the aphorism “Most men lead lives of quiet desperation and die with their song still inside them.” What he actually said is, “The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.” Pretty much the same message though, right? Our songs remains unsung.

    Perhaps the happiest and most productive employees are those who sing at work!

    As someone who has been both a boss/business owner and an employee/innovative disrupter I can honestly attest, unfortunately, that most business organizations are not run in a democratic fasion, most bosses want compliance above all else, especially those in middle management positions because they don’t necessarily have a vested interest in the companies they work for, so why would they value those individuals who are game changers for the good of all or, for that matter, innovators?

    In a Utopian work environment employees would be appreciated for their individual ideas and contributions, but that’s Utopia. So what we realistically need to do is find a way to work within the system as it exists or get out and either work for an organization that shares your values or start your own business. Either way, we need to hedge our bets and find a balance between what is best for ourselves, our families and our pocketbooks.

    Ray Dalio’s workplace is both inspiring and instructive. Radical Transparency is his mantra. In this interview, “Company Culture and the Power of Thoughtful Disagreement”, we see how a super successful company treats it’s people.

    https://youtu.be/ABB1pfi3ZpE

    Dalio clearly understand his own strengths and shortcomings. He feels he benefits by being open to differing opinions…and he should know. He runs one of the world’s largest hedge funds.

  • Posted at 12:27 am, December 6, 2016

    100% agree with taking more ownership and action in your career. I can say a good manager is more important than a good company. A manager can make a break a job so it’s important to raise concerns with your leadership team and share your opinions. Nothing can change without taking action.

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